truly moving forward

even though I'm not the number one hoarder of the house, I am still a hoarder. So today I really talked to myself about myself and I'm trying to get rid of stuff. I think it's going to be alot less and every day offers a chance for improvement.
Moving brought emotions. I found the video camera me and Big D had gotten into an argument about it and of course he wants it. Even though I paid it all off, and I'm always the one called selfish, but you know what I really don't care about it, I got a Flip for x-mas and don't want that, but I'd perfer that becasue it's electronic. So yes Big D keep it and I gave you an apology about an argument we got into over 2 years ago, I hope it serves you well, I hope it releases you from something.
But in me finding the camera I feel mostly sad, just becasue that was my life and it's not any longer and there's nothing close to it in my life and that's sad. Plus I was sad becasue we went on a trip and had fun, even though there is a very big argument surrounding that also....but it was my family and I loved them and I thought we had fun and I miss them becasue they are not part of my life any longer. Mostly I'm moving past the old life that I've been holding on and mourning. And that's not the only old life I've been holding on to, I think I need to really get rid of all clothing that does not fit me. I am holding on to alot of stuff, but I also know when I move I'm moving on the weight loss thing pretty heavy so can I justify it through the end of the year or something?
It's time for new memories, new experiences - school is one and it's taking me somewhere, sewing and design also...my life is moving forward and I am trying to minimize my mourning...one good thing about living with a buncha folks you can't cry in your soup for too long by yourself, so I'm off to do some homework with the neicipoo and nephew and get ready for some dinner, I'm starving and I was good until I thought my stomach was eating itself and then I kinda went off track, but still not too bad, I might track it... alot is going on to be really counting and whatnot, but I also know I have been really conciensious and I brought my lunch to work and I will continue to do that this week also.

Glad I got it off my chest real quick and I'm moving past it. feeling kinda better.

Birthday Ruminations...

this was written while I was away 4/22/2010...

So I’m trying to get over big D while flirting and trying to get him places with me. So duh it’s not working.

My birthday was…I let other things get into my birthday…I don’t know why I ever told Steph it was cool to call him to hang with us, I don’t know why I ever even for a thought a second or a breath really thought he was going to come. So I’m irritated with me, I’m mad at me and I really want to back off of big D cause obviously he’s currently getting too much thoughts and that’s not good for my moving past this relationship so …ok today I told him

I gave someone my number and they haven’t used it and I’m kinda ticked cause I was fa sho they were going to use it. IRRITATED. I’m telling him to give it back! Grrrrr

So I had a relaxing week…my allergies are letting up, I drank some wine and felt good, I swam and relaxed in the hot tub and with a really nice Swedish massage & hour long facial!!!! Mmmmmm….it was a nice vacation!! I am blessed and thankful that I was able to spend this time! I really didn’t think about anything, I relaxed let the mind be free, I facebooked, no computer games though, I surfed very minimally on the iPhone…but not a lot at all…I’m typing this as I’m cleaning out my documents folder on the laptop, it’s been 3 years with us together and it needs to be cleaned up of some files and reorganized a bit, so I’m working it out, gotta get my tech fix in and be productive on my relaxing vacay…

From the relationship playbook tonight – the more we work on what we should be, the less we’ll feel the need to hide what we are. I’m working on what I should be, my best me.

I’ve lit the last fire of the vacation. I guess I’m ready to head home, but more than anything I’m more motivated to buy a house. I need to be in my own life, on my own schedule, living how I need to be. I’ve a business to start a degree to finish, some art and sewing to study, I like my own life, not my mothers or my sisters my own life. I need to live the life that motivates me.

So my birthday is a big thing for me. The goals for my life is to keep my workout momentum, get to stepping, summer is coming, you’re cute, but you could be cuter…get to steppin!!!! When I quit smoking I put off working out and eating right, a lot of it I allowed to be an excuse since quitting smoking, but today it’s time to let that go, I quit smoking over a year ago. What’s the purpose of being a fat ass non smoker? NONE! So get on it!!!

I’m moving on past Big D. I’m done; no I don’t think he will show up anywhere in support of me! No I won’t ask, no I won’t expect, no I will not entertain those thoughts, I was letting myself get sucked up, but I must not! We had been flirting pretty heavy, but guess what I’m done, he won’t get to experience all that we’ve teased the last week or so…oh well you’re bad and actually if you wasn’t always acting so damn scared to leave the forkinghouse we would have been done it..OH

Happy day and thanks for all that I was able to enjoy, thanks for the travelling grace, thanks for the ability to take the trip I am blessed beyond belief, I know that I am lucky that I have so many things in my grasp that others do not and for that I am thankful and I’m off to bed. I hope I can get up at 8 and take advantage of the gym and one last time in the pool would be a treat…I’ma try but it’s after midnight, but I’m tired…and a little drunk…goodnight – I’ll be posting from home, no internet on this trip!

I’m looking at my timed fire and thinking about the many properties I’ve seen with fireplace’s I wonder how hard it might be to make them a pretend fire that throws heat? I really have been enjoying this, I think it’s gas and it’s warming up the room one hour at a time. I would just like to turn it on and then off when I’m done. P on the list to check on when I am upgrading my new house…

Goodnight!

Sunday, April 18

Happy Birthday to me, Happy Birthday to me....

Today is my birthday and it's afternoon, I had a great fun night last night....till I was dead on my feet and ready to come home...but whatevs, it's over I made it home and I woke early but couldn't make it outta bed...my head is killing part allergies part hangover....but it's my birthday....

I love celebrating my birthday and I want to make a commitment to me and my next year of life...

I'm blessed and thankful for the ability to see today and celebrate a birthday. Thank you Lord

I can't wait to take this trip for solitude and reflection and rejuvenation...I have determined that I am CHARGING full steam ahead in all my endeavors...I've got places to go people to see a business to start a house to buy and a degree to finish!!!!

another one bites the dust...

so me an a homegirl, been kinda going through it for some time. So homechick and I have been friends since middle school and on and off have been very close. So in the last 2 years, we've been relocated to closer proximately to each other. So it's cool to have someone to go out with and do new shit with and whatnot...so intially we went out a few times and I felt homechick was not acting like a grown ass woman, I did mention some of this behavior as not how I like spending my downtime. So Iwasn't judgy, but I just knew that we were not jiving on the kicking it level....my birthday two years ago, she puked in front of the club and i left that party early to take her to some boys house that she's f-ing....on her birthday we have dinner and see a show, on our way to the next party - homechick says she had passed out in her car....ooookkkkaaaayyyyy....so strike three is that at my sister's party she once again is puking in the club....
so next day she makes some sideways remarks about people that she didn't know but people that we knew and about things they were saying about her the night before....well for one, homechick, I don't carry myself in that manner and of everyone that I'm with you are the one doing this and poeple have seen you and they are welcome to say whatever they want...
so we haven't been out since and haven't spoken to each other on the phone or by text, there has been some emails and facebook chatter
last night I status update I'm cooking dinner and she says put me up a plate, I joke back, that it might only make it lunch time - she then says I'm in your town working back at my old job I'll be by for lunch...ok later after dinner is devoured there's no lunchtime leftovers soooo I tell her i'm outta lunch, but since she's in my town lets hook up for lunch....she says she'll give me a call today...well 2 hours past lunch time I've heard nothing...
So I'm thinking how I will proceed...I guess nothing...I mean we obviously aren't friends, so is there further comment necessary???

INOTHERNEWS...
I'm not sure about this dating thing....maybe I should continue to keep my focus on my forward moving life??? who knows, I'm debating....

yes you do suck at hiding

so i THOUGHT i made myself transparent....FREAKING DUR.....hmmmm, things they will be achanging....
that's why I keep it ahunned, know it and deal with it, if it's a problem for you keep it moving...

my world is changing

soooo um, I placed an ad on an an online singles website...it's free and I've been chatting with one man there...and you know tha saying that when it rains it pours well of course I got that advantage currently. Someone I work with is flirting with me and I've been flirting with him, but it appears that our flirting, might be moving into a direction of his making a move, which is what I've been waiting for cause I'm not 22 and it's my time to be a lady and let a man persue us moving forward...that's the way I am dating....well things look like something like a pimp, and I'm enjoying it!

I've been shitty on the school front, I must confess that this week I gave nothing. I have 8 more days of this course I MUST PUSH!!!

I'm soooo ready for my vacay & my birthday!!! I CAN'T WAIT FOR A LITTLE SOLITITUDE!!!